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Flowers sparkle. Yes, flowers in their full bloom make us smile. We draw inspiration from them. They make us laugh, see life from a perspective that differs from an introvert. Flowers spread good cheer around all the time. Life is pleasant. We have something to look to all the time.
Family life becomes wholesome when we have children around. Unfortunately not every one is blessed with children. At times the longing for a child remains unfulfilled. We run into depression. We are filled with a fear that we are destined to go issueless. The fear of failure that drives us crazy is as common as the desire for success. It can be the energy that drives the wheel if harnessed well. But for most it is debilitating.
Family life should never be marred by fear of failure. When two people, a handsome man and a beautiful woman, chose to be united in marriage and thereby become one entity, marriage ought to be driven by love, respect, affection, care and definitely passion. One should be passionately in love and yet there ought to be love, affection and mutual respect. Performance should never be the criteria for a successful marriage. One can be a great actor and at once an abject failure.
You cannot go into a marriage for ensuring succession. Children are the greatest blessing one begets from marriage. But children are not the be all and end all of marriage. You cannot be like robots, performing in bed to beget an offspring. Man is an animal. The animal is a thinking animal. It is not flesh and blood alone. It will never be.
Planning is a word that rings loudly as you go into a marriage. In the initial euphoria, one wishes to savour the passion and delay the child. Once the euphoria wears off the harsh reality stares at you. Try as much as you dare you feel that you have to go issueless. Medicines and medical assistance do not alter the situation. You tend to believe that everything works against you. Desperation sets in. You blame planning. You blame your own thoughtlessness in savouring passion delaying conception.
There is nothing to be self deprecating. There are events in life you cannot control. Nature can be contained, but cannot be destroyed. One has to realize that whether with children or without children the greatest blessing that has come your way is the fact marriage has united you.
As you keep at it for a child never be anxious and never feel guilty. You will have your child at the appointed time. Trying for a child sounds mechanical. One cannot build a child in a factory.
Feel free, talk to each other and never refrain from foreplay, for sex is to be enjoyed. You have to be passionately in love. Sex is not a number game or a special purpose vehicle. Sex is the culmination of intense love, deep affection and mutual respect.
Tell yourself on each occasion, “If we have children it will be great. If we do not have children it does not alter us even a bit. We will still be the same. Our love will remain forever. The affection we have for each other will further be cemented. We will understand each other better and the mutual respect we have for each other will only grow as the days go by. We are having a great time. We will go on having a great time all through our life.”
Flowers bloom. Flowers sparkle. Children light up our life. Children or no children we can make our life sparkle if we have a sound and sensible mind where we think less of ourselves and more of the needs of our brethren.
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Family life becomes wholesome when we have children around. Unfortunately not every one is blessed with children. At times the longing for a child remains unfulfilled. We run into depression. We are filled with a fear that we are destined to go issueless. The fear of failure that drives us crazy is as common as the desire for success. It can be the energy that drives the wheel if harnessed well. But for most it is debilitating.
Family life should never be marred by fear of failure. When two people, a handsome man and a beautiful woman, chose to be united in marriage and thereby become one entity, marriage ought to be driven by love, respect, affection, care and definitely passion. One should be passionately in love and yet there ought to be love, affection and mutual respect. Performance should never be the criteria for a successful marriage. One can be a great actor and at once an abject failure.
You cannot go into a marriage for ensuring succession. Children are the greatest blessing one begets from marriage. But children are not the be all and end all of marriage. You cannot be like robots, performing in bed to beget an offspring. Man is an animal. The animal is a thinking animal. It is not flesh and blood alone. It will never be.
Planning is a word that rings loudly as you go into a marriage. In the initial euphoria, one wishes to savour the passion and delay the child. Once the euphoria wears off the harsh reality stares at you. Try as much as you dare you feel that you have to go issueless. Medicines and medical assistance do not alter the situation. You tend to believe that everything works against you. Desperation sets in. You blame planning. You blame your own thoughtlessness in savouring passion delaying conception.
There is nothing to be self deprecating. There are events in life you cannot control. Nature can be contained, but cannot be destroyed. One has to realize that whether with children or without children the greatest blessing that has come your way is the fact marriage has united you.
As you keep at it for a child never be anxious and never feel guilty. You will have your child at the appointed time. Trying for a child sounds mechanical. One cannot build a child in a factory.
Feel free, talk to each other and never refrain from foreplay, for sex is to be enjoyed. You have to be passionately in love. Sex is not a number game or a special purpose vehicle. Sex is the culmination of intense love, deep affection and mutual respect.
Tell yourself on each occasion, “If we have children it will be great. If we do not have children it does not alter us even a bit. We will still be the same. Our love will remain forever. The affection we have for each other will further be cemented. We will understand each other better and the mutual respect we have for each other will only grow as the days go by. We are having a great time. We will go on having a great time all through our life.”
Flowers bloom. Flowers sparkle. Children light up our life. Children or no children we can make our life sparkle if we have a sound and sensible mind where we think less of ourselves and more of the needs of our brethren.
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