Marks Mania: Watch out for exam fever in your child, and yourself

 Come exams, especially board exams. Exam fever grips the children relentlessly. Parents are no exception. They'll tell they are putting no pressure on children. They'll say they have no expectations about the child's grades as long as the child gives it's best efforts. But what the best effort is, remain ambiguous, creating all kinds of confusion and pressure on the child's mind. The parents want the child to get into the best college or institution.

Most children try to live upto their parents' expectations. They feel deeply inadequate and troubled when they sense that they are falling short.

These are questions pulled out from an article, "Marks Mania: Watch out for exam fever in your child, and yourself" by Dr Amit Sen in Times of India of 18January2024.

The learned doctor suggests:

1. Understand and accept the child's unique learning style.

2. Help the child to pace the preparation. You have to encourage extra carricular activities along with  studies and let the child peak at the exam

3. Be aware of your own worries and anxieties. Do not nag, lecture, put restrictions or inflict harsh punishments. Believe the children are doing their best just as you are.

4. It's okay to seek help. Turn to a professional in times of crisis.