BEING A PARENT THE TOUGHEST JOB ON EARTH

 

BEING A PARENT THE TOUGHEST JOB ON EARTH

Priya Dutt- Roncon tells it makes you constantly worry and judge yourself

Times of India of 12 February 2026 – Neha Bhayana

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Once kids reach a certain age you need to let them fly. But it’s extremely difficult to let go. It makes you very happy when you see them grow and make a life for themselves. However, when they grow up and move away they take a little bit of your heart with them. You keep looking at their photographs. When they come for their holidays, it’s like they have never left. You do the same things for them. You make sure they eat. They behave like small children when they are back. They wish to be pampered and have everything done for them.

When you look back you wonder how you brought your children up. You would feel there was some kind of a force out there that supported you all throughout. When you are a working woman, there would be a lot of guilt you have to deal with as you would be forced to leave your children alone and proceed with your job. Here, if your partner does not support you everything would go haywire.

Being a parent is tough because you are nurturing and creating these human beings. Being a parent is a learning journey. You have to instill in the children the right values. .You have to be sure about the values you are imparting upon your children as they are going to grow up with that. You would always be hoping and praying that they would become good human beings. You would have to tell your kids a lot of stories. The stories certainly would stay with them. Please speak to them about their grandparents who had struggled hard at one point of time. You must sit and chat with the kids.

Nobody is perfect. Never expect the children to be perfect. They will make mistakes. It’s only when they make mistakes they would learn. You have to be there as the right guide for them.

 Inculcate humility in the children. Convey to them no matter how big they become or whatever they reach in life they have to keep their feet on the ground. Teach them that nothing is permanent in this world. Tell them they could be up one day and down the other day.  And they have to be taught to never let the success or failure go to their head.

 The children have to understand that failure and success go hand in hand in many ways. It is very important to fail, to learn and then become better. The fact is we all have failed in some way .in our lives and come back up and done something amazing afterwards. Let the children learn from that.

Be open with the children. When you become protective, trying to shield the kids from everything, you have to understand they are soon going to be out in the real world. It’s better to prepare them at the earliest.

The examination system that exists today needs to be revamped. It is unfortunate that the undue importance on Class 10 results is stifling the nurturing of the children

Parents should recognize what their kids are really good at instead of forcing them to do something they are not even interested in. The offers that claim to make your child a genius are crazy. Please do not box them into so many little things. It is really sad.

 We should just let them play, run around, make friends and be naughty.

 

 

 

 

EVANA SURPRISES US

                                                                 EVANA SURPRISES

                                                                           US

                                                         ON 11TH FEBRUARAY 2026

                                                                   

I enquired how she did it.

She replied she had attempted some thing like this a couple of months ago with water colour. She said she had understood it had to be done with paint to be effective. 

Ann, her mother, tells me she didn't buy it, for one, it was expensive, and two, everything would be strewn around in a crowded work space.

She said she finally gave in and ordered what Evana wanted from Insta Mart.

The surprise was, the order was fulfilled in half an hour.

Evana was happy.

She got to work

She was silent

But busy

And after a while she brought her creation to me.

I hugged her.

It was superb.

  She is seven now.  

Here is what she had longed for:

                                                                                 

                                                                                  

HAPPY THE GREY MATTER IS NOT IN THE GREYING MODE

Mr. John Kurien, Former CGM, NABARD

Our close friend at CSI Christ Church, Palayam, Trivandrum was requested by the senior members of the Church to speak on the composition of the 66 Books in the Bible and the Apocripha. He prepared his discourse in English, where he was well conversant. However, though his Malayalam was good, he didn't have the opportunity to express himself in his mother tongue while he had been on his job, as his career had taken him away from Kerala most of the time.

The elderly were insistent the discourse had to be in Malayalam. 

He complied. 

Then he had forwarded to me  the content in both English and Malayalam.

It was a pleasant surprise.

Both the transcripts were superb in quality. 

I commended him for the excellent effort.

The interaction that took place is recorded here.

The brilliance of the great man is in full flow:

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 "I wrote in English

Translation to Malayalam on public demand was tough for me"

"It is comprehensive.

I just wonder how you compiled it

If people can't understand or catch on to it, they are nothing but nincompoops

Translation is tough."

"But my question stays." 

How could you garner the voluminous data in English first?"

"These are some of the Books and literature available to me termed as APOCRIPHA and PSEUDO EPIGRAPH writings during the 400 year Silent Period between the Old and New Testament Period and detailed studies on the above works are not given importance by the Protestant Churches

The Study and time line of the New Testament Period cannot but desert the above works followed by other denominations and churches of the Chrysendom "

."That's why we consider you the finest genius in our Church"

"I did lot of reading and research from books collected from many persons including Mariam Kochamma whom I visit often and mr.K.S.Simon for Apocripha literature

A fine book I saw yesterday written by Rev.K.John ,prof of old testament in KUTS when I was a boy ,yesterday on the Silent Period of the Bible is yet to be read

I read on varied subjects.,recently concentrating on old mal.fiction 5 books each time from Public Library,which are exchanged every week on Tuesdays when I go to Sowhrdom for Thankam"

"Happy the grey matter is not in the greying mode"

A NOVICE EXPRESSES GRATITUDE

Expressing gratitude, happiness and joy with flowers for your scaffolding, guidance and the  creation of space as well as  the elevation of an unknown to a summit I always considered insurmountable and unattainable

                                   

                                                                               

    

                                                                                  

                                                                               

                                                    REV PROF DR C I DAVID JOY 

                                 A NOVICE ACKNOWLEDGES DAVID JOY ACHEN 

                                                       THE FINEST INDIVIDUAL 

                                                  HE HAS EVER COME ACROSS

LAL, LILA, RAJU, LEELA AND LAJI

                         

                                                                      THE FAMILY

                                                                    CAME TOGETHER

                                                                               AT 

                                                                           KANAM

                                                               FOR PRECIOUS  FLEETING

                                                                        MOMENTS

                                                         ON 2ND FEBRUARY 2026

                                                               

 

 

THE SIBLINGS

                                                                         A RARE MOMENT

                                                                                   IN

                                                                           OUR LIVES 

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                

                                                                     

 

                                                              

                                                                        

 

              

                  

                                                                                         

   

                                                              A RARE MOMENT

                                                                       IN

                                                               OUR LIVES 

                                                      WE GREW UP TOGETHER

                                                      LOVE AND AFFECTION

                                                      KEPT US TOGETHER

                                                      TILL LIFE PUSHED US

                                                      OFF IN TANGENTIAL 

                                                           TRAJECTORIES

                                                                     AND

                                                            DESTINATIONS

                                                                 

                                                          THE SIBLINGS

                                                       LAL, LEELA, LAJI

                                                      CAME TOGETHER 

                                                            AT KANAM

                                                      AFTER A VERY LONG TIME

                                                      ON 2ND FEBRUARY 2026

                                                     OUR PAPA'S BIRTH DAY

                                                     IS ON 1ST FEBRUARY 2026

                                                     HE LEFT US ON 5TH APRIL 2008

                                                      OUR  MUMMY HAD LEFT US 

                                                        ON 30TH MAY 1978

                                                                     YET

                                                      WE HELD TOGETHER

                                                                

                                         

EXTRICATE CSI THE CHURCH OF SOUTH INDIA

 

Industrialist Sunjay Kapur (53) had died in London in June last year.

The immense wealth he  has left behind has brought his wife, mother, sister as well his former wife and children into litigation at the Delhi High Court.

After hearing multiple allegations levelled by the Kapur clan against each other, the Delhi High Court has taken a dim view of "the washing of dirty linen in Court."

The HC advised the litigants to go for mediation to resolve their differences and not let God's "blessing of wealth turn into a curse."

Justice Mini Pushkarna asked if there was "any chance of mediation."

She said, " God has blessed you with good financial wealth. At the end of the day, all parties are in pain. They are grieving and all of you suffered. Lead a good life rather than fight."

She further advised, "Sit together. Resolve the issues in a manner, everyone's interest is safeguarded."

"All of you should try to respect relations....Way forward is resolution in a peaceful manner. Efforts need to be from both the sides."

Is this not the CSI's and SKD's problem.

To put it in a nutshell, " It is the desire to appropriate wealth through all devious means and further the hold or grip on the assets of the Church forever that impedes the resolution of issues that threaten to destroy the edifice God has bestowed upon CSI."

The Bible is emphatic. It calls such avaricious people, 'FOOLS'

Perhaps the Courts would have to  finally extricate us from the intricate web we have bound ourselves in.

Perhaps an Armageddon alone would make the impossible, the possible.