BOXING AND THE EXTRA VITAL STEP IN LIFE

 

In Boxing, there is no such thing as flawless performance.

You are going to be hit.

If you want to win, you cannot get stuck in the weeds, hide from your weaknesses or avoid challenges.

There is no need to beat yourself up. Your opponents would do plenty of beating.

If you wish to protect your face and head, you have to leave your body exposed and take some punches.

In boxing, you must risk moving into danger in order to fully take advantage of your skills and eventually win the match.

New projects or ventures require similar mentality. Taking that extra step forward into the unknown is vital.

PERFECTIONISM

 

PERFECTIONISM

When you are a perfectionist, you have to be fastidious about getting every point right. If not, your decision could end up flawed. Yet, to be uncompromising, you have to make compromises. Here, prioritization of objectives comes into sharp focus. You learn, you have to tolerate flaws. It’s part of becoming an expert in your venture. You gradually gain mastery in the job on hand. As you grow, you understand which flaws are acceptable over your own urge to attain perfectionism.

Perfectionism is the desire to be impeccable. The goal is zero defects, no flaws, no failures.

In an increasingly competitive world, kids face growing pressure from parents to be perfect and harsh criticism when they fall short. They learn to judge their worth by the absence of inadequacies. Every flaw is a blow to their self esteem.

Perfectionists excel at solving problems that are straightforward and familiar. They are happy to regurgitate facts they have committed to memory, though they may have no idea about what they actually mean.

When it comes to mastering their tasks, perfectionists are no better than their peers. The average correlation between perfectionism and performance at work had been found to be zero on an analysis and at times the former had been worse off.

It is observed:

1.       The skills and inclinations that drive people to the top of their high school or college class may not serve them so well after their graduation.

2.       The people who go on to become masters in their own fields often start out with imperfect transcripts in school.

However, perfectionists generally tend to get three things wrong in their quest for flawless results:

1.       They obsess about details, that don’t really matter. They are so busy finding the right solution to tiny problems whereas they lack the discipline to find the right problems to solve.

2.       They avoid unfamiliar situations and difficult tasks that might lead to failure. It leaves them refining a narrow set of existing skills rather than working to develop new ones.

3.       They berate themselves for making mistakes, which makes it harder for them to learn from the mistakes. They fail to realize that the purpose of reviewing your mistakes isn’t to shame your past self. It’s to educate your future self.

Perfectionism traps us in a spiral of tunnel vision and error avoidance. It prevents us from seeing larger problems as they are. Further, it restricts us from developing our own skills.

 If perfectionism were a medication,   the label that would alert us to common side effects could be stated as, “Warning –may cause stunted growth.”

A perfectionist, on matters or projects important to him may keep revisiting and refining until it’s exactly right. But he can succeed only when he recognizes that perfection is a mirage and that in order to go farther, he has to learn to tolerate the right imperfections. You win when you strive not for perfection but for what could be the perfectly acceptable.

You become a master, when you find beauty in imperfection.

Adam Grant
Hidden Potential

 

 

 

ABSORB NEW IDEAS/ FILTER OUT OLD ONES

 

Growth is less about how hard you work than how well you learn.

You get a lot farther by being a self starter.

As we become more spongelike, we become better equipped to achieve greater things.

Prosperity rises as people become more capable of absorbing new ideas and filtering out old ones.

Absorptive capacity is the ability to recognise, value, assimilate and apply new habits.

Absorptive

having power or capacity or tendency to absorb or soak up something (liquids or energy etc.)

Adam Grant

Hidden Potential

BETTY ELSA JACOB, ASSISTANT PROFESSOR ENGLISH CMS COLLEGE KOTTAYAM CURRENTLY ON LEAVE

 

I had posted the Video of  Evana singing "O come all ye faithful" the popular Christmas Carol without any accompaniment to our nephew Sandeep at Philadelphia, USA with a note

Perhaps Betty can tell her something.
Not feedback.
Not critiquing.
But advice

It led on to some great interactions.
Here are them all.

............................

Sandeep responded at once

Thank you for sending the video of Evana singing. I will forward it to Betty.

Betty comes up with impenetrable gems

She truly doesn’t need advice, because she is already richly blessed. God has placed within her a beautiful voice and a distinct calling, and those gifts were never given without purpose. In His perfect time, He will gently lead her onto the path He has already prepared for her. What matters most is not the many voices around her, but her willingness to listen to His. With faith and trust, her journey will unfold naturally, guided by the same God who gifted her so wonderfully in the first place.

I could only appreciate her

Thank you for the thoughtful message Sandeep shared.

"With faith and trust, her journey will unfold naturally, guided by the same God who gifted her so wonderfully in the first place."

A brilliant exposition.

There is a reason for seeking your advice

Though children or anyone else get fed up with a host of advice solicited and unsolicited, the right advice lead you on the right path

At present I am into Adam Grant, HIDDEN POTENTIAL.

It's loading me with inputs that never crossed me earlier.

Ball Hog is one.

He soundly explains it with a real story.

The writer argues well  one should not look for feedbacks or criticism but only advice for all round improvement at the personal level. It made sense.

He explains, if we look for feedbacks, no one would give us anything adverse.

Everyone prefers to be in the good books. And you gain nothing in the bargain.

As for criticism, what I understood was, it would stifle you for good. The initiative deserts you.

But advice makes you introspect and reengineer.

I felt, since you sing so well - we admire you for that, you could be of terrific assistance t…

Betty closes

Thank you for your generous words about my singing and teaching, but honestly, I believe each journey unfolds in its own time and way.  With the gifts God has placed in her and the path He has set before her, she will surely excel. If at any point I can be of help, I’ll gladly do so.

FINISH HOMEWORK

 

India's independence ushered in a flurry of reforms.

It made education an undeniable right. Focus on women's empowerment brought more and more women into the work force.

The corollary was, family income was supplemented. New found prosperity ensured the comprehensive growth of the family. 

But growth had posed questions. Both the parents had to leave their homes much earlier to report for duty, much earlier than their children awoke, leaving their children in deep slumber. Of course there would be someone at home to take care of the children or to send them off to their schools in the form of maids or grandparents.

However, mothers could never leave their children in the lurch. They take care of their children well even in their absence.

Look at how a proactive mother does it so well.

SOS TO THE MAYOR CORPORATION OF THIRUVANANTHAPURAM (TRIVANDRUM) KERALA

 

SOS TO THE MAYOR CORPORATION OF  THIRUVANANTHAPURAM (TRIVANDRUM) KERALA

Respected Sir,

FOR URGENT ATTENTION AND QUICK RESOLUTION

We have been finding it extremely difficult to reach the main road as our access is closed at will by the the people who do some work or the other at their own pace. 

Of course there are a few other exit points, but the road to them are very narrow.

It has been weeks since the main exit has been curtailed to one third of its original width. It is unfortunate that this lifeline too is denied to us most of the time. Our suffering is high.

The one third space so graciously gifted to us is enough for us to walk it over, or for an autoriksha or vehicles the size of a Maruti 800 to negotiate. Bigger vehicles we certainly can take, but at our own risk. 

It just is impossible

To employ a bit of HUMOUR it seems the proletariat alone need to survive here and not the bourgeoisie who drive a bigger vehicle. And today the proletariat are much better off than the much abused and much hated bourgeoisie who do not exist in this part of the world.

Humour apart I request you to save our souls from this suffering imposed upon us by the callous

Yours faithfully
Abraham Jacob
House No 28
NSS Karayogam Road
Anayara PO
Trivandrum 695029

Phone 9447253532

EVANA AT HER WORKPLACE

 

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